I have problems with my dad’s wife, and her two kids. But, because we decided to make the effort to get along, my relationship with both my brother and sister has grown and been very good.
My brother, however, has a girlfriend, who I was once good friends with. When I got engaged, I asked her to be a bridesmaid, and she said yes. We spent A LOT of time together and hung out a lot while my husband was away in basic training.
Well, out of the blue, I couldn’t get in contact with her anymore. Any text or call I tried to make came back saying the number was invalid. Then, my car got wrecked, and I have not gotten a new one yet. So it’s not like I could just go to her house and talk to her.
I saw her once at my dad’s, but her and my brother went into his bedroom, and I had enough sense not to interrupt, and they weren’t out by the time I left.
NONE of my family likes her. My dad HATES her, his wife hates her, my sister is annoyed with her anytime she is near, and even all the grandparents barely tolerate her. I was her only friend for a very long time, because I felt awful that she was so unliked in the family. I had no problems with her. She could just get annoying. I can get past that.
I had my wedding, without her or my brother, because I could not contact them. I sent an invitation to her house. I sent an invitation to my entire immediate family at my dad’s.
Then, I start hearing from friends that she is talking bad about me behind my back. I live in a small town. It’s what happens. Anything you say is heard by the whole town.
So, I make the extra effort and catch her online, and send her an IM. Here’s the convo:
me:hey. i need to talk to you.
her:k.
me:i keep hearing youre mad at me bc you think you didn’t get an invite to my wedding or that i didn’t want you to be a bridesmaid. hun, i sent an invite to you and your mom and kevin. idk, maybe i had the address wrong or something, but i copied it down from the fedex thing with the pics we did in Oklahoma. and i did try to send you texts asking you if you still wanted to be a bridesmaid, but they kept coming back saying invalid number.
her: look not to be mean but no i didnt get an invite it was just so rude when you told me to be a brides mad you cange your colors then you dont tell me when the wedding was and you kno where i was living you could have came to my house if you couldnt get me on the fone but you didnt try so…..idk wat to tell you im hurt and a simple appology isnt goin to cut it. you really hurt my feelings. ive been living at dustins and you saw me at mrs denas house like 3 times since then and you didnt even say a simple sorry or nothing.
ive got to go ive been stayin in the trailer at dustins you want me to forgive you come appoligies to me in person not through a text or im.
me:excuse me, but there is nothing to apologize about. i did nothing out of meaness to you. i only saw you ONE TIME at my dads, and you and dustin went into the bedroom, so i let you be. so you can continue to be bitter about this if you want, but my conscious is clean, bc i know i never did anything wrong or anything that was out of meaness. and by the way, I HAVE NO CAR. so, NO, i could not have come to your house, THANK YOU.
My conscious is clean, but now I’m so angry! I have the right to change my own wedding colors, first of all. That’s a minor thing in this dispute. My main thing is that now I don’t know what to do, because I KNOW she is the reason my brother won’t talk to me anymore, and I have no idea what to do. I’m at my wits end, and I’d love to just beat the hell out of her, but she would win, no doubt.
What do I do!? I can’t talk to her or him!
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