Seriously, how come it is always up to the guy to make the first move and start a conversation, keeping it going, and asking the girl out? why does the guy have to make all the moves, while all the girl has to do is just sit back, relax, and accept him or reject him? Is this a reason why?:
Men can father an infinite amount of children. Women, in an evolutionary context, only get a few shots to reproduce. So men needn’t be choosy. But a woman, evolutionarily speaking, has to use her reproductive opportunities very wisely. She has to be choosy, and she better not "mate" with a guy who won’t be there for their offspring, or her chance to pass on her genes could be lost. So, evolution has produced women who are very very patient. Who wait for the right guy, and who make him prove his interest by doing all the work of courtship while she sits back and judges him.
It’s how we have evolved. It’s part of our biology. Men have during his lifetime the capacity to procreate a million times. Our sperm, semen indicates to spread and procreate. That is why we are the hunters, chasers, pursuers, initiators. Women in the other hand, has a very finite number of eggs that she makes during her whole life, and while a man can impregnate a woman and disappear, the woman cannot. She has a huge vested interest in not only the quality of the seed the may be getting, but the quality of the man that gave her that seed.
What all this means is that a woman is not interested in having sex, she is interested in having sex with the better man, with the better genes. So women are programmed to veto, to be selective. While men are programmed spread his seed, and since he is going to be vetoed, he is programed to pursue and continue to pursue. This also explains why women are not very good at handling rejection, while men , the ones that are successful are good at handling rejection.
So as a man, if you want things to happen, you have to take control and make them happen. Now because men and women, even though are hard wired no different than a primitive man, the needs to survive have changed. We no longer have to hunt, we go out and make a living, pursue sports, surround ourselves with the things that say you are a better provider, a more suitable animal.
And while men pursue, women try to attract males. That is why they sell Victoria’s Secret and all that sexy stuff, yet the same does not exist for men.
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