(Ex?)Girlfriend wants to make herself better for me?
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She and I have been dating for a while and though she’s a bit more on the shy side, she’s always been very loving and telling me how I’m too perfect and we have had some truly wonderful moments. However, earlier today after she admitted to me about a sexual dream she had the night before, a bit later she told me she doesn’t think she’s ready for a committing relationship yet, and yes, I was seriously hurt in the process, it was one of the most painful things my heart has ever experienced to be honest… But I talked about it with her.
She tells me she hasn’t lost her feelings at all and is more in love with me than ever, but even though I tell her she’s more than good enough for me, she herself doesn’t believe it and wants to make herself good enough. She is about three years younger than me and I am her first real relationship (she had others before this, but not serious). She says she wants to break up to get some more experience in dating so that when she gets older she will be good enough for me and we could have a future together.
She and I are going to be good friends no matter what, and I have dated several girls but I honestly haven’t loved any more than her… She says she understands if I date any girls during the time also, but I am not the type of guy, and as I warned her we don’t know what happened, and in exchange she needs to be completely open about how she really feels and must not play me and if she looses interest, she must tell me, since I don’t want to be toyed with.
Am I doing the right thing in letting her do this though she has her mind set and sticking by with her since I really do want to be with her, should I just leave this mess and try to put away my feelings, should I try to make her come back to me… I know what I think I’m going to do, but is what I’m doing the right thing? Thoughts?
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I don’t like how she wants to "get more experience" to make herself better. That’s just disgraceful to you and to her. If she really wanted you she wouldn’t have made up some lame excuse. You should be all the experience she needs and if you are telling her she is good enough and she keeps denying it then it’s good you broke up. She is too immature for you anyway. You need to find someone your own age who can handle a seriously relationship.
Believe me you will find someone who you love a lot more then her. Let her go and move on, it’s the best thing for you and for her. If this is the same girl from your other question she doesn’t really want to be with you. She likes the attention that she gets from other guys and she isn’t willing to let that go.
She might like you, but this is her way of saying she doesn’t want it anymore. You are doing more then the right thing in letting her go, but you should explain to her that you don’t want her to get better for you and that if she is doing that soley for that purpose then you can’t and don’t want her back. Just let her go and that’s it.
Edit: And no you are not doing the right thing in letting her go out with other guys and still waiting for her. That makes you look like an ass. She is probably an immature girl who is playing with you and that is what girls want. A guy like you who will wait around. Dump her.
im going through a smiliar thing, but my ex, is now texting me after a month of breaking up,nd i was her 1st time 2year relationship, think you have to be there…but not…if she wants to go out or something just say like 1st time she asks…not tonight maybe another night? but then again like my ex said she doesnt feel herself anymore,and im just biting the bullet playing it cool.
i would ve scared to if i were her. she knows she loves you sommuch, vut it looks like this has veen her only real relationship. her suvconcious!!!-is telling her she needs to date more vefore she knows she’s ready to settly down and start makin da vavies. she wants to experience new people and confirm with herself that you are the vest. she’s trying to do whats the vest for voth of you, which is make sure shes in the right relationship. stick to her, vut go out and meet other woman to make sure shes the right one for you; (sorry my v vuttons vroken….fml)